"You Decide"
That's not the answer ladies are looking for when they ask for a suggestion.
Where to eat? What movie to watch? Where to go for fun? You don't have to be the "go to" person for everyone of these questions, but try to imagine the image that you are projecting if your answer to all these is "you decide."
So have a few places for food in mind. Check out the newspapers for good movies you want to watch. If nothing strikes you as particularly good, just be open to any suggestions. Find a place you like to hangout because you're comfortable there. If you don't have any ideas, ask your friends, check the Internet and papers.
In other words, do your homework: be prepared.
Fortune favours the prepared. Even in dating.
Listening
As you get more experienced with life and dating, maturing and growing old, you learn to read between the lines.
"I'm not ready for a relationship right now" translates to "you're not the one".
"It's not you, it's me" translates to "It IS you."
"Let's just be friends..." - "... Looooong distance friends."
The truth is most people are too polite to say what they really think, so you have to truly listen to what they mean to say, not what you would like them to say. It doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with you... well, there probably is - no one's perfect. But you are probably not worse than anyone else, and you'd have something special to offer that special someone. You just haven't found that one yet.
And not to be overly cynical, sometimes, "let's just be friends" means precisely that - I want to be your friend.
You are nice. You are sweet. I'm just not attracted to you that way.
And while it may be a little disappointing that you have not found that special someone, that new friend is a new resource. That new friend could tell others about you - and how you might be compatible with their friends.
Shoot for the moon and sometimes you might just hit a star. But that's alright because a star could light the way.
Who loves you, baby?
Assuming you'd love yourself. It is natural. You know yourself best and you know your strengths and weakness and you know best what is most lovable about yourself.
Why do you need to love yourself? Well, if you don't love yourself, how can you love another? If you don't love yourself, why should another love you?
you can't make someone love you.You can only make yourself lovable.
Simple Ingredients, Special Effort
It's all about the famous Prawn Mee Soup.
The secret of that dish, it seems, is the flavourful soup.
How is that soup made?The ingredients are simple: Garlic, Prawns, and Dried Scallops. Bags of garlic, prawns and dried scallops are tossed into a huge 40 gallon tun and boiled.
It takes 18 hours of continuous boiling, stirring, and simmering to make that characteristic flavourful soup. And tending the soup, stirring it often is important to prevent the soup from burning.
The ingredients are so simple, so common. But it is the effort that makes it special.
We are not all famous people, or blessed with talent, good looks, or an abundance of wealth. If we are special it is by virtue of our effort.
So the ONE you are looking for will be special because of the personal effort and attention given to you. Similarly what will make you special in the eyes of the ONE is your personal attention - offering your help lending an ear, giving a sincere compliment, or just brightening the day with a smile or a joke.
It's the little things.
No comments:
Post a Comment