yes, let people learn, not teach them
you know what. it really sucks. it seriously sucks. having the feeling of wanting to do a particular thing, yet you can't do it. you know. like a god damn big super duper ultra spikey durian stuck in your throat. yes. that serious. once you move, you are bleeding profusely. you can't speak. you can't move. that feeling sucks.
sigh. how i wish i am able to do the things that i really can do, and i really want to do.
a thrilling day. nevertheless, ended with a fulfilling chat. at least it's one thing i love to do, able to really find someone to sit down and talk to. really great a feeling. you know, those one to one, talking sessions. and both sides feel enriched. okay, i don't know about the other, but yes. i do feel enriched.
yeah, new year resolutions.
- boost those figures upwards stated in my account book
- more friends needed
- watch
- ps2
- a nice PC
- girlfriend?
haha. so far, that's it. the list will go on.
yeah. so how do you spread your love around? haha.
you like someone, you say it out do you? like duh~ of course... and yes, wait for the rejection. argh, i hate this part.
you look into his eyes, nice feeling. it's so amazing. haha. sounds like some "The Bachelor" kinda thing. yup, i'm watching it now.
and yes, i'm going to watch it.
buaiz.
=)
cya people
2005! rock on.
oh yeah, taking da initiatives...
Sunday, December 26, 2004
one post after christmas
before anything, MERRY CHRISTMAS to one and all. of course, be-lated. but being me, i shan't forget to wish everyone, again, after the day of loving and sharing.
okay, back on track.
it's sunday, and i think i am suppose to work. but i'm working with people that makes me unhappy. so how? simple, don't work loh. bluntly put it, fucking dulan.
let's not spoil things aight? haha.
i reckon, that, one day after christmas would be me reflecting alone at home. think and think and think. then *poof* i'm sleeping.
ya, the hot weather woke me up. i didn't dream. but my pillow's wet. hmm, i wonder why.
perhaps, i took my dreams for real, then those water might be tears then.
nah, let's not go on.
the christmas mood is gone. for my case, nothing seems to bother anymore.
i walked along the streets,
my legs are heavy and sinking down
onto the earth below.
just like quick sand sucking me down.
didn't wanna move on, but had to.
to keep me above the quick sand.
fortunate thing is, i'm not alone.
there's a lot others with me
struggling through.
snow flakes fell, white they seem
but they smell (*pukes*)
snow fell hard and have to avoid them,
of course, with the quick sand beneath me.
and yes, i've came out of the crowd, and the sand, and the disgusting snow.
everything came to a still.
i started to realise those around me.
things i've never noticed before.
they've became more beautiful.
okay, my personal perception.
but they are really beautiful. haha.
found a personal space and lean against something grey,
thought things through, regret many, thankful many, sorrowful many.
the clock strikes,
merry sounds were heard.
Merry Christmas. =)
okay.
i don't know if i'm blind,
or i'm clear headed.
i've stepped onto this road, that is deem as wrong
when
i just stepped out of another, that is deem evil.
haha.
gotta go.
cya all.
take care. =)
bring the person you like to your place, see if she likes the books and cds you have...
before anything, MERRY CHRISTMAS to one and all. of course, be-lated. but being me, i shan't forget to wish everyone, again, after the day of loving and sharing.
okay, back on track.
it's sunday, and i think i am suppose to work. but i'm working with people that makes me unhappy. so how? simple, don't work loh. bluntly put it, fucking dulan.
let's not spoil things aight? haha.
i reckon, that, one day after christmas would be me reflecting alone at home. think and think and think. then *poof* i'm sleeping.
ya, the hot weather woke me up. i didn't dream. but my pillow's wet. hmm, i wonder why.
perhaps, i took my dreams for real, then those water might be tears then.
nah, let's not go on.
the christmas mood is gone. for my case, nothing seems to bother anymore.
i walked along the streets,
my legs are heavy and sinking down
onto the earth below.
just like quick sand sucking me down.
didn't wanna move on, but had to.
to keep me above the quick sand.
fortunate thing is, i'm not alone.
there's a lot others with me
struggling through.
snow flakes fell, white they seem
but they smell (*pukes*)
snow fell hard and have to avoid them,
of course, with the quick sand beneath me.
and yes, i've came out of the crowd, and the sand, and the disgusting snow.
everything came to a still.
i started to realise those around me.
things i've never noticed before.
they've became more beautiful.
okay, my personal perception.
but they are really beautiful. haha.
found a personal space and lean against something grey,
thought things through, regret many, thankful many, sorrowful many.
the clock strikes,
merry sounds were heard.
Merry Christmas. =)
okay.
i don't know if i'm blind,
or i'm clear headed.
i've stepped onto this road, that is deem as wrong
when
i just stepped out of another, that is deem evil.
haha.
gotta go.
cya all.
take care. =)
bring the person you like to your place, see if she likes the books and cds you have...
Wednesday, December 15, 2004
hey you !
often i heard, "argh~ troublesome to find a gift for this guy of mine" so on and so forth. haha.
let's see if this helps. *for the girls perhaps? that is if there's anyone reading this space...
Symbolic Gestures
Present-presenting is a challenge no matter who the recipient is. But when it's a guy you're gifting, your relationship may hang in the balance -- or at least it may feel that way. "Guys don't like to think they're having a relationship, and they don't ponder its intricacies when you're not around," says Dr. Kate Wachs, author of Relationships for Dummies. "We women, on the other hand, start daydreaming and even picture the future until often there are two relationships -- the one in our heads, and the real one." Buy a gift that reflects the real relationship, she says. And think of the things he wants, not the things you wish he'd want. Here are some further fail-safes to help you along the way.
Guy-Gift Category #1: Your Crush
When you've got your eye on someone and you want to give him the green light to ask you out, a gift can be a great way to get his attention. But what kind of attention do you want to get? You want to hit the proper note of mysterious and sexy, without coming off as a one-night stand. Tantalizing, not trampy.
So instead of a red mesh thong, give him a gift that implies sophistication with just a hint of naughtiness, such as a mini bottle of fine Scotch or a Dominican cigar -- the kind of thing that makes it clear you think of him as a man.
Or maybe you want to appeal to the friendship you already have, but bump it up a notch. "You want to send up a flare that will surprise him into thinking about you in a different way from how he already does," says Dr. Wachs. "So figure out how he sees you, and twist it slightly." You could burn a CD of songs you both like, with a couple sexy ones thrown in the mix.
Just stick to the middle ground between friend and Sex and the City's Samantha Jones. You want to start a relationship, not end it before the first date.
Guy Gift Category #2: The Guy You Just Started Dating
So you've been on, say, three dates -- the sparks are flying, but you haven't had the "we're-going-steady" talk. And a gift occasion comes up. Danger, Will Robinson! Get this one wrong, and you can knock the whole train off the tracks. You don't want to startle your stud and make him run -- or give him the impression that he's The One when in fact you're still making up your mind! So keep things light and friendly.
A gift that's thoughtful, not stalk-ful, is one that takes up the thread of communication you've established and takes it one stitch further. Give him a book you think he'd like, based on a conversation you've had with him. Bake him some cookies. This gesture says you're nurturing and low-key, and implies that in addition to the lips he's been kissin', you've got some home-and-hearth potential.
The note you want to hit is, "I like where we're at and want to keep it going, but I'm not trying to get my claws into you or anything." Can be tough, but if he's a cool guy, he'll get the message. (If not? Good riddance.)
Guy Gift Category #3: Your Boyfriend
The guy you know you'll be with on Saturday night and Sunday morning -- the steady boyfriend who lights up your life -- deserves a special something. "You want to pick something that shows you know him," Dr. Wachs advises. "Think like him, but don't overdo the togetherness thing." The key here is to be the only person who understands a particular part of him -- making him cherish you all the more.
"What's his secret goal?" she asks. "Does he have an old hobby that he wishes he hadn't dropped?" Get a wannabe pilot a beginner's flying lesson, or a guy with an unpublished novel a book about breaking into publishing, or a frustrated guitarist tickets to see B.B. King. You're telling him "I know who you really are, and I support that."
Just don't give him anything that makes him feel trapped by you. A romantic weekend away can backfire. This is supposed to be fun for him.
Making a Statement
Guy Gift Category #4: Your Live-In Lovaaah
Once you've signed a lease together, it's easy to start taking each other for granted. Swoony evenings give way to knockaround nights, camisoles give way to comfortable jammies, and by now, he's bound to have seen you in those big granny panties from laundry day. Your gift is allowed to be a bit domestic, but not overly so -- you do want some romance involved.
At this point, slight alterations to his style are allowed: groovy sunglasses, a watch upgrade, a sweater in a solid Merino wool. Stay away from pants, even if his pleats drive you up a wall -- that's getting a bit too Mommy about it all. You can also get more lavish, as this may well end up being a gift for the two of you -- a camera, a TV, a Palm Pilot, fancy steak knives.
The idea is to look around and see what'll complete your picture together, still keeping in mind that this must be something he craves, not something that you think he should want. That can be tempting, but save it for a let's-buy-it-together anniversary gift.
Guy Gift Category #5: The Man You Married
The ring's on your finger, but that doesn't mean the romance has to go out of gift-giving. Au contraire. Now's the time to drive home the fact that regardless of holy matrimony, you still want to feel like you're living in sin. You want to make him feel that landing a life with you is the best thing that ever happened to him.
Sexy gifts are great -- you can buy yourself those crazy Victoria's Secret panties with the keyhole that shows off butt-cleavage. "If there's something that he always hints about, but that's not your style, do it now so he knows you're doing it for him," Wachs says. It might just be a shorter skirt that you only wear for just-you dates, or wearing your hair down when you usually choose a practical ponytail. "You no longer have to worry about your status as girlfriend, so you can be as naughty as you dare," she says.
For his main present, you should shoot for something he's been dying for, that any "normal" wife (the kind you see on sitcoms) would put the kibosh on. Yes, you need to be practical -- you're saving for a house, the kids' college, whatever -- but you're also still fun. And you know that even though he never gets a chance to work on car engines anymore, that upscale pair of mechanic's gloves would remind him that he really revs your engine. Celebrate his love of sports with a personalized jersey (to make up for the times he misses the game these days).
Let him know how much you appreciate who he is and what he does for your life together. And let him feel like the guy he was before he became the man of the house. Because that's who you fell in love with -- and you want to keep him around, too.
Guy Gift Category #6: The Guy You Wish Would Dump
YouSometimes a relationship's been limping along, but just won't give up the ghost. In that case, a gift-giving event can provide the perfect season-ender. No need to be a b-word about it, but a slightly crappy gift can be a good final out.
Potpourri for his bathroom says "you stink." Anything teddy bear related tells him "you need to work out, fatty." A baseball cap shrieks, "Hey, baldy! I can't stand the way you look, and I don't think you're worth more than twelve bucks!"
ya, that's about it. haha.
might be applicable to the guys too ? i don't know. haha...
take care.
=)
i don't want you to be alone, there's me...
often i heard, "argh~ troublesome to find a gift for this guy of mine" so on and so forth. haha.
let's see if this helps. *for the girls perhaps? that is if there's anyone reading this space...
Symbolic Gestures
Present-presenting is a challenge no matter who the recipient is. But when it's a guy you're gifting, your relationship may hang in the balance -- or at least it may feel that way. "Guys don't like to think they're having a relationship, and they don't ponder its intricacies when you're not around," says Dr. Kate Wachs, author of Relationships for Dummies. "We women, on the other hand, start daydreaming and even picture the future until often there are two relationships -- the one in our heads, and the real one." Buy a gift that reflects the real relationship, she says. And think of the things he wants, not the things you wish he'd want. Here are some further fail-safes to help you along the way.
Guy-Gift Category #1: Your Crush
When you've got your eye on someone and you want to give him the green light to ask you out, a gift can be a great way to get his attention. But what kind of attention do you want to get? You want to hit the proper note of mysterious and sexy, without coming off as a one-night stand. Tantalizing, not trampy.
So instead of a red mesh thong, give him a gift that implies sophistication with just a hint of naughtiness, such as a mini bottle of fine Scotch or a Dominican cigar -- the kind of thing that makes it clear you think of him as a man.
Or maybe you want to appeal to the friendship you already have, but bump it up a notch. "You want to send up a flare that will surprise him into thinking about you in a different way from how he already does," says Dr. Wachs. "So figure out how he sees you, and twist it slightly." You could burn a CD of songs you both like, with a couple sexy ones thrown in the mix.
Just stick to the middle ground between friend and Sex and the City's Samantha Jones. You want to start a relationship, not end it before the first date.
Guy Gift Category #2: The Guy You Just Started Dating
So you've been on, say, three dates -- the sparks are flying, but you haven't had the "we're-going-steady" talk. And a gift occasion comes up. Danger, Will Robinson! Get this one wrong, and you can knock the whole train off the tracks. You don't want to startle your stud and make him run -- or give him the impression that he's The One when in fact you're still making up your mind! So keep things light and friendly.
A gift that's thoughtful, not stalk-ful, is one that takes up the thread of communication you've established and takes it one stitch further. Give him a book you think he'd like, based on a conversation you've had with him. Bake him some cookies. This gesture says you're nurturing and low-key, and implies that in addition to the lips he's been kissin', you've got some home-and-hearth potential.
The note you want to hit is, "I like where we're at and want to keep it going, but I'm not trying to get my claws into you or anything." Can be tough, but if he's a cool guy, he'll get the message. (If not? Good riddance.)
Guy Gift Category #3: Your Boyfriend
The guy you know you'll be with on Saturday night and Sunday morning -- the steady boyfriend who lights up your life -- deserves a special something. "You want to pick something that shows you know him," Dr. Wachs advises. "Think like him, but don't overdo the togetherness thing." The key here is to be the only person who understands a particular part of him -- making him cherish you all the more.
"What's his secret goal?" she asks. "Does he have an old hobby that he wishes he hadn't dropped?" Get a wannabe pilot a beginner's flying lesson, or a guy with an unpublished novel a book about breaking into publishing, or a frustrated guitarist tickets to see B.B. King. You're telling him "I know who you really are, and I support that."
Just don't give him anything that makes him feel trapped by you. A romantic weekend away can backfire. This is supposed to be fun for him.
Making a Statement
Guy Gift Category #4: Your Live-In Lovaaah
Once you've signed a lease together, it's easy to start taking each other for granted. Swoony evenings give way to knockaround nights, camisoles give way to comfortable jammies, and by now, he's bound to have seen you in those big granny panties from laundry day. Your gift is allowed to be a bit domestic, but not overly so -- you do want some romance involved.
At this point, slight alterations to his style are allowed: groovy sunglasses, a watch upgrade, a sweater in a solid Merino wool. Stay away from pants, even if his pleats drive you up a wall -- that's getting a bit too Mommy about it all. You can also get more lavish, as this may well end up being a gift for the two of you -- a camera, a TV, a Palm Pilot, fancy steak knives.
The idea is to look around and see what'll complete your picture together, still keeping in mind that this must be something he craves, not something that you think he should want. That can be tempting, but save it for a let's-buy-it-together anniversary gift.
Guy Gift Category #5: The Man You Married
The ring's on your finger, but that doesn't mean the romance has to go out of gift-giving. Au contraire. Now's the time to drive home the fact that regardless of holy matrimony, you still want to feel like you're living in sin. You want to make him feel that landing a life with you is the best thing that ever happened to him.
Sexy gifts are great -- you can buy yourself those crazy Victoria's Secret panties with the keyhole that shows off butt-cleavage. "If there's something that he always hints about, but that's not your style, do it now so he knows you're doing it for him," Wachs says. It might just be a shorter skirt that you only wear for just-you dates, or wearing your hair down when you usually choose a practical ponytail. "You no longer have to worry about your status as girlfriend, so you can be as naughty as you dare," she says.
For his main present, you should shoot for something he's been dying for, that any "normal" wife (the kind you see on sitcoms) would put the kibosh on. Yes, you need to be practical -- you're saving for a house, the kids' college, whatever -- but you're also still fun. And you know that even though he never gets a chance to work on car engines anymore, that upscale pair of mechanic's gloves would remind him that he really revs your engine. Celebrate his love of sports with a personalized jersey (to make up for the times he misses the game these days).
Let him know how much you appreciate who he is and what he does for your life together. And let him feel like the guy he was before he became the man of the house. Because that's who you fell in love with -- and you want to keep him around, too.
Guy Gift Category #6: The Guy You Wish Would Dump
YouSometimes a relationship's been limping along, but just won't give up the ghost. In that case, a gift-giving event can provide the perfect season-ender. No need to be a b-word about it, but a slightly crappy gift can be a good final out.
Potpourri for his bathroom says "you stink." Anything teddy bear related tells him "you need to work out, fatty." A baseball cap shrieks, "Hey, baldy! I can't stand the way you look, and I don't think you're worth more than twelve bucks!"
ya, that's about it. haha.
might be applicable to the guys too ? i don't know. haha...
take care.
=)
i don't want you to be alone, there's me...
Tuesday, December 14, 2004
Rhapsody of Hannukkah
How's everybody ? goooood? =)
that's great.
haha. dumb start. but still, a start.
and then, there's school. school today, not bad at all. a couple of hours. but seems like minutes. very occupied at work. thinking and thinking.
then played badminton in school. wow. long time no play. aching all over.
Nice feeling to be aching
and well, slacking semester as usual.
*PROUD
haha. ker-ray-zee nuts.
i'm outtta here.
all i want for christmas... is you...
and yes, you.
ciaoz~
for eternity, i shall wait... for.. you...
How's everybody ? goooood? =)
that's great.
haha. dumb start. but still, a start.
and then, there's school. school today, not bad at all. a couple of hours. but seems like minutes. very occupied at work. thinking and thinking.
then played badminton in school. wow. long time no play. aching all over.
Nice feeling to be aching
and well, slacking semester as usual.
*PROUD
haha. ker-ray-zee nuts.
i'm outtta here.
all i want for christmas... is you...
and yes, you.
ciaoz~
for eternity, i shall wait... for.. you...
Monday, December 13, 2004
My Inner Hero - Rogue!
It's a good thing I use my powers for good and not evil, because quite frankly, I could get away with murder. I'm clever, tricky, and charming. I know how to make you laugh with one hand and pick your pocket with the other. Not that I'd ever DO that, of course...
How about you? Click here to find your own inner hero.
It's a good thing I use my powers for good and not evil, because quite frankly, I could get away with murder. I'm clever, tricky, and charming. I know how to make you laugh with one hand and pick your pocket with the other. Not that I'd ever DO that, of course...
How about you? Click here to find your own inner hero.
don't rush into things
yep. i'm still awake. for some reasons. yes i am still awake.
created some posts in the month of december. but well, didn't know where they went. but i guess no one bothers. but i just go on. it's trying to be part of my life.
school starts. everything starts. new subjects to work on. not a bad feeling. just that the time table a little cranky. and yeah, my time table's alright. except that little tiny monday slot. gosh~
i need to buy sets of stuffs. haha. i'm rich people. officially, rich. muahaha.
tomorrow school starts at three pm. yup. three to five. fantastic right. not really. half a day gone already. but i think i left out something which i forgot to do, just that i don't know what it is.
beautiful pair of legs is really shown when the thighs ain't touching each other. don't know if it's true or not. but i'm definitely gonna check it out. =)
definitely worth it.
just be careful.
ocean's twelve is next.
good night.
even if it means to take away my life, i would still want to love you...
yep. i'm still awake. for some reasons. yes i am still awake.
created some posts in the month of december. but well, didn't know where they went. but i guess no one bothers. but i just go on. it's trying to be part of my life.
school starts. everything starts. new subjects to work on. not a bad feeling. just that the time table a little cranky. and yeah, my time table's alright. except that little tiny monday slot. gosh~
i need to buy sets of stuffs. haha. i'm rich people. officially, rich. muahaha.
tomorrow school starts at three pm. yup. three to five. fantastic right. not really. half a day gone already. but i think i left out something which i forgot to do, just that i don't know what it is.
beautiful pair of legs is really shown when the thighs ain't touching each other. don't know if it's true or not. but i'm definitely gonna check it out. =)
definitely worth it.
just be careful.
ocean's twelve is next.
good night.
even if it means to take away my life, i would still want to love you...
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